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Feelings of self-doubt may come when we rely on our own strength. The Savior offers to help us on our journey through mortality. He invites us to walk with Him and rely on His love, power, and strength. We can stay focused on Christ—the Light of the World and our Savior from self-doubt.

During our study abroad trip to Israel, our group visited historic places where the Savior walked and where many significant events occurred. One day we toured Hezekiah’s Tunnel, which was built in about 701 BC to provide Jerusalem with a reliable source of water in the event of attack by the Assyrians. The tunnel extends more than 1,700 feet in length and is built in a zigzag pattern. Constructed in limestone rock, the tunnel brought the waters of the Gihon Spring outside the walls of Jerusalem to the pool of Siloam.[1]

Walking through Hezekiah’s Tunnel shows the need for light—like the divine light we need as we press forward on rocky paths. Photo by Sarah Bodine.

The director of our program, Jeff, prepared us to walk through the tunnel by telling us to bring a flashlight and wear sturdy shoes. He warned us that the path would be rocky and that we might be walking in several inches of water. The first half of our walk through the tunnel was a fun adventure. The second half was a difficult challenge: Jeff asked us to turn off our flashlights and walk in the dark. I was stunned. Was he serious? How could I walk through the wet, rocky tunnel without light?

My heart began to race; I was scared to death, sure that I would fall on the rocks and land headfirst in the water that reached my knees. Most of all, I was nervous that I would panic from claustrophobia. However, I didn’t want to be the only coward in our group, so I turned off my flashlight. Everything around me was pitch black. To make matters worse, I was the last person in line and worried that I would be left behind. As I tried to navigate the tunnel in the dark, my hands moving along the wet, slippery walls, I pleaded for help. I couldn’t decide if I was frightened or just mad at Jeff for planning such a scary trip. All I knew was that I needed a little comfort.

At that moment, someone in another group about thirty feet behind me flashed a light for a split second, just long enough for me to see which way the tunnel was turning. The light assured me that I was OK. I continued walking forward in the dark, breathing deeply and trying to listen to the people in front of me. I noticed that just when I would become fearful again, I would see another flash of light, which would fill me once more with confidence and assurance. This happened six or seven times. I made it to the end of the tunnel in the dark with those occasional flashes of light. Often the light came when I was the most fearful and uncertain.

After reaching the end of the tunnel, our group cheered, laughed, and celebrated our accomplishment. I was relieved just to have survived the experience! I was thankful for the stranger behind me who gave me occasional light.

My whole life has been like that walk through Hezekiah’s Tunnel. I have been deeply moved as I’ve pondered the times when I felt I had been walking in the dark and the Lord provided me light so I could see the way. When I’ve stumbled along the path, I’ve pleaded for help, and the Lord has given me flashes of inspiration to renew my hope and rekindle my faith. I’ve learned that if I keep going, keep believing, He will always show me the next step to take, a corner to turn, or a new path to follow. His divine light will keep me steady and secure on a somewhat rocky path.

I love the hymn “Lead, Kindly Light” by John Henry Newman: “The night is dark, and I am far from home; / Lead thou me on! / Keep thou my feet; I do not ask to see / The distant scene—one step enough for me.” [2] I’m thankful for the Savior’s light that allows me to walk “one step” more, the next step that is “enough”—enough to love my husband, to nurture my daughters, to help friends and family, to contribute at work. I can take one step at a time; that is enough.

Jesus taught us, “I am come a light into the world, that whosoever believeth on me should not abide in darkness” (John 12:46). Our belief in and dependence on His light will help us take the next step out of darkness into the light.

Walking Alone

Even with our knowledge of God’s plan, we may still catch ourselves trying to walk our mortal journey without Him. Elder Robert D. Hales declared that we “can’t do it alone,” regardless of our level of spiritual maturity:

We may know that God lives. We may know that Jesus is the Christ. We may know that he gave his life for our redemption, that he is resurrected that we might live, and that he is alive today. We may know that Joseph Smith has restored The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the last dispensation of the fulness of times . . . a time when the scriptures that have been revealed to us are virtually all the scriptures available to mankind. . . . Yet, my brothers and sisters, with all of this knowledge, why is it that some of us fail to learn the very critical point that we did not come to this life to live it alone?[3]

A major obstacle to overcoming self-doubt is thinking or acting like we have to do it alone. With this belief, our path turns dark and discouraging. We end up feeling isolated from the strength we so desperately need. Many feel they don’t need others to progress. Psychologist Brené Brown says, “One of the greatest barriers to connection is the cultural importance we place on ‘going it alone.’ Somehow we’ve come to equate success with not needing anyone. Many of us are willing to extend a helping hand, but we’re very reluctant to reach out for help when we need it ourselves. It’s as if we’ve divided the world into ‘those who offer help’ and ‘those who need help.’ The truth is that we are both. . . . The heart of spirituality is connection. When we believe in that inextricable connection, we don’t feel alone.”[4]

Connection implies “I need you” and “You need me.” Why is it destructive to walk our mortal journey alone? Because progression is relational. We need each other, because our progress builds on relationships—with God, family, others, and ourselves. We help each other. We learn from each other. We love and care for each other. We learn how to put gospel principles into action with each other. We share how we navigate the ups and downs in our journey. We make covenants together that connect us to each other for the eternities.

Again, progression is relational. We need each other. There is so much goodness, talent, and strength around us to learn from. Each of us works hard to gain independent strength emotionally, mentally, socially, intellectually, physically, and spiritually. Then we become interdependent—everyone sharing the strength they’ve gained with each other. We become encircled with love and security—reminding us that we are not alone.

Sometimes we are unaware of the distracting influence of the adversary. Where Christ seeks to enable our progression, the devil seeks to disable our efforts. The word disable means to “put out of action[, to] prevent or discourage (someone) from doing something.”[5] Satan’s disabling influence blocks our view of the light of Christ. He seeks to handicap our happiness, paralyze our progress, and cripple our relationship with Christ. Satan knows that relationships are critical to our progress, and he seeks to do all he can to separate us from those who mean the most to us. He doesn’t want us listening to or learning from God, and he doesn’t want us listening to and learning from each other.

The Savior connects us. He does not want us to be alone! But Satan disconnects us. He triumphs when we are isolated, lonely, and separated from heaven’s help.

Parents feel the heartache of children who choose to walk alone, without the help of God and others. One couple I know summarized an experience with their child this way:

Our son no longer believes in God. He sees no need for religion or spirituality in his life. He thinks that—if by chance—God really does exist, God would not be interested in him. He stopped praying personally and with his family. He believes he will be “just fine on his own.” He has cut off all connection to God and the Church. He talks a lot about being lonely. He feels bad that he doesn’t have more friends but doesn’t know where to find them. He suffers with low self-esteem and has little confidence in his ability to be successful. He is consumed with doubt about himself and his possibilities. If only he realized that the relationships he has severed are relationships that can help him to be happy and successful!

Our hearts break when we have family members who disconnect from God and the Church, because we know they are missing out on crucial experiences, such as the following:

• relationships with ward members who could offer love and support
• social activities at church that would provide the opportunity to meet new people and feel encouragement from others who are the same age
• testimony meetings and lessons at church that would inspire them
• family prayer, family scripture study, and home evening lessons that would help them feel connected to family
• personal prayer and scripture study that would remind them that God loves them

It is painful to see someone you love separate him- or herself from the relationships that channel divine help, family help, friend help, and church help. Elder Robert D. Hales explains why we need to walk our journey with God and others:

The “isolated self” shut off from the Light of Christ makes us become fallible—open to delusion. The balance and perspective which come from caring about others and allowing others to care for us form the essence of life itself. We need the inspired help of others to avoid deceiving ourselves. It has always been a mystery to me why the intellectual elite sometimes shut themselves off from the Spirit of God. . . .

It is also God’s plan that we cannot return to his presence alone, without the help of someone else. . . .

When you attempt to live life’s experiences alone, you are not being true to yourself, nor to your basic mission in life. Individuals in difficulty often say: “I’ll do it alone,” “Leave me alone,” “I don’t need you,” “I can take care of myself.”. . .

. . . I have also found in life that there is none too great to need the help of others. There is none so great that he can “do it alone.”[6]

When we try to “do it alone,” we focus on ourselves—on our own strength and our own wisdom. No wonder we feel consumed with self-doubt when we try to walk alone. No wonder we become impatient with ourselves, fret about our inadequacies, and feel overwhelmed with the tasks of life. Jesus Christ has a different message: we have help! Our Savior implores us, “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness” (Isaiah 41:10).

The good news of the Atonement is that we are not isolated—we are not alone! We are not disconnected from help in our doubt and insecurity. We can be connected to the patient powers of heaven that can reach down and gather us together in love and strength. Christ prays in our behalf to be “at-one” with Him: “And now Father, I pray unto thee . . . that they may believe in me, that I may be in them as thou, Father, art in me, that we may be one” (3 Nephi 19:23). Christ invites us into perfect unity with Him and our Father. Do we accept His offer?

Christ’s Gift Allows Us to Become One with Him

In Spain’s Prado Museum hangs a large painting by Venetian artist Jacopo Tintoretto.[7] The painting portrays the moment before the Last Supper when the Savior washes the feet of the disciples. Anciently, a servant washed the feet of all guests who visited a home. Tintoretto depicts the Savior inviting His Apostles into a rented room and enacting the role of servant. The Apostles know that Jesus is the Son of God, and they are unsettled by His humble gesture. Tintoretto captures the moment in history when Jesus washed the feet of Peter, as recorded in the book of John: “Then cometh he to Simon Peter: and Peter saith unto him, Lord, dost thou wash my feet? Jesus answered and said unto him, What I do thou knowest not now; but thou shalt know hereafter. Peter saith unto him, Thou shalt never wash my feet” (13:6–8).

Tintoretto’s painting of the Last Supper shows Peter accepting Christ’s gift. Courtesy of the Prado Museum, Madrid, Spain.

I will never forget the first time I saw Tintoretto’s interpretation of Peter accepting Christ’s service to him. The details of this painting that impressed me are the emotion in Peter’s face, his outstretched arms, and his eyes riveted on the Savior. You can see the very moment when Peter understands the Savior when He declares, “If I wash thee not, thou hast no part with me” (John 13:8). This is the moment in Tintoretto’s imagination when Peter understands that if he does not permit the Savior to serve him, then he cannot become “one” with Him. In order to emphasize the connection between washing and the Atonement, Tintoretto painted an inset image of the Last Supper directly above the Lord’s head. Peter must have thought that he should be the one washing feet, not the Savior. However, at this moment, Peter understood that receiving Christ’s service was symbolic of him receiving the Savior’s gift of the Atonement. Hence, Peter’s plea: “Not my feet only, but also my hands and my head” (John 13:9).

Do we hesitate, like Peter, to partake of Christ’s gift to us, not understanding the nature of the service He extends to us, not feeling worthy of His offering, or not acknowledging the need to partake of His gift of service? In Doctrine and Covenants 88:33 we read, “For what doth it profit a man if a gift is bestowed upon him, and he receive not the gift? Behold, he rejoices not in that which is given unto him, neither rejoices in him who is the giver of the gift.” Do we rejoice in the giver and the gift?

To become one with the Savior, and with others, we must receive His infinite service we call “atonement.” To be “one” is another way of saying “complete, whole, and fully developed”—that is, perfect. Christ’s greatest manifestation of love is His gift that allows us to become whole and complete as He is. We can’t be “fully developed” by ourselves. The blessings of eternal life require being “complete”—unified in marriage and family relationships. Our divine refinement is not a solitary process but one that requires interaction and connection with others and with God.

The Atonement makes unity possible. “The life of Adam and Eve is the story of receiving the Atonement,” explained Elder Bruce C. Hafen, “which empowered them to overcome their separation from God and all opposition until they were eternally ‘at one,’ with the Lord, and with each other.”[8] Isn’t this our story as well? Our story of receiving the Atonement? We accept Christ’s gift to become “at-one” with Him, which enables us to become perfect as He is. Are we willing to accept His service, His gift, His help? Are we willing to allow the Savior to wash our feet? Are we willing to walk with Him?

Accepting Help from Jesus Christ

When I arrived in Spain to walk the Camino with my husband, I wanted to do something to honor Christ. How could I give Him a tribute that didn’t feel trite? Nothing seemed like it would be good enough to honor Him who has given me everything! So I changed my question: “What has helped me the most to feel close to Him?” Reading the Book of Mormon was my first answer. I decided that I could honor Him by doing something powerful that drew me close to Him. Since I couldn’t read as I walked, I listened to the audio version of the Book of Mormon. Hour after hour, as we walked through beautiful forests and quaint towns, I heard the words of Christ. It was a different experience going through this sacred book that fast instead of carefully reading just portions at a time. I could see the big picture of the entire book more clearly—the book’s witness that the Savior and Redeemer of the world has come to help us. I heard repeated themes about trusting the Lord. I heard repeated warnings to beware of pride and to be humble and repent. I heard many stories with the same story line relating the consequences of people remembering God and forgetting God. Mostly, I heard an invitation to accept the Savior. My experience was sweet. My testimony was strengthened as I tried to honor Christ as I walked. Thankfully, He also walked with me.

“And now, remember the words of him who is the life and light of the world, your Redeemer, your Lord and your God” (Doctrine and Covenants 10:70). Precious are the words of the Book of Mormon that teach us about our relationship with Christ. The blessings of the Atonement remind us that we are not alone; we are invited into a unified relationship with Christ and our Father.

When we encounter self-doubt, when we feel we are not as good as we should be, we can remember that those feelings can help us recognize that we need help—first and foremost from the Savior. Sister Michelle D. Craig, First Counselor in the Young Women General Presidency, said, “The surprising truth is that our weaknesses can be a blessing when they humble us and turn us to Christ. Discontent becomes divine when we humbly approach Jesus Christ with our want, rather than hold back in self-pity. In fact, Jesus’s miracles often begin with a recognition of want, need, failure, or inadequacy.”[9]

Why do we need the Savior by our side when we doubt ourselves? Because He reminds us we can’t do it on our own—we can’t achieve the kind of progress required to become refined like He is. Because feeling His encouragement personally motivates us to keep trying. Because He reminds us that our mortal journey is about recognizing God’s love and learning to love the way He does. Because He helps us focus less on our weaknesses and more on loving others. And because He reminds us that His love and strength are the very means by which we can become like Him—even while in our state of inexperience, imperfection, and weakness.

We can’t experience the refining process of perfection without Christ. He molds and refines us into the glorious beings we are capable of becoming. And He is the only one who can do so. Sheri L. Dew taught:

The Savior isn’t our last chance; He is our only chance. Our only chance to overcome self-doubt and catch a vision of who we may become. . . .

The Lord knows the way because He is the way and is our only chance for successfully negotiating mortality. His Atonement makes available all of the power, peace, light, and strength that we need to deal with life’s challenges—those ranging from our own mistakes and sins to trials over which we have no control but we still feel pain. . . .

Our responsibility is to learn to draw upon the power of the Atonement. Otherwise we walk through mortality relying solely on our own strength. And to do that is to invite the frustration of failure and to refuse the most resplendent gift in time or eternity.[10]

God also sends us help through prophets, family members, friends, and even those on the other side of the veil. This idea is illustrated in the story of Elisha, an Old Testament prophet of the Northern Kingdom of Israel known for his notable miracles. Elisha, also a trusted adviser, counseled the king of Israel on how, where, and when to defend against the Syrians. As Elisha predicted, the king of Syria sent horses and chariots and a great host to surround them. Elisha’s servant, overcome with fear, cried to Elisha, “Alas, my master! how shall we do? And he answered, Fear not: for they that be with us are more than they that be with them. And Elisha prayed, and said, Lord, I pray thee, open his eyes, that he may see. And the Lord opened the eyes of the young man; and he saw: and, behold, the mountain was full of horses and chariots of fire round about Elisha” (2 Kings 6:15–17). In reference to Elisha’s experience, Elder Jeffrey R. Holland elaborated on this help we receive beyond the veil: “In the gospel of Jesus Christ you have help from both sides of the veil, and you must never forget that. When disappointment and discouragement strike—and they will—you remember and never forget that if our eyes could be opened we would see horses and chariots of fire as far as the eye can see riding at reckless speed to come to our protection. They will always be there, these armies of heaven, in defense of Abraham’s seed.”[11]

We don’t always see who is round about us to calm our fears, strengthen us, and grant us peace. But what we do know is that God sends help, on this side of the veil or on the other. In Doctrine and Covenants 84:88, He tells us, “And whoso receiveth you, there I will be also, for I will go before your face. I will be on your right hand and on your left, and my Spirit shall be in your hearts, and mine angels round about you, to bear you up.” This verse has special meaning to me. Several members of my family have passed away, including my mother, father, sister, brother, mother in-law, father-in-law, and three nephews. Life seems very short to me because I’ve lost so many people whom I love dearly. But I feel their presence as angels round about me to bear me up. I know we have a loving Heavenly Father who sends angels to comfort and strengthen us. And if we don’t have people close to us who have passed away, God sends an army of angels connected to us to bear us up. We may not know them, but they know us! These angels partner with God in ministering to our needs.

God often sends others to walk with us, reminding us that we are not alone, reminding us that we are one family—God’s family—and that we can help each other return to Him. Most importantly, He sent His Son to walk the pathway of perfection with us.

Sharing His Help

Calvin, one student in our Camino group, became aware of Christ’s willingness to walk with him. He was reminded of Christ’s help and the need to share His help. After the first two weeks of walking, Calvin developed severe pain in his lower legs. He was upset with God that his painful legs prevented him from joining the group to walk. He felt betrayed, hurt, and helpless, thinking that God had abandoned him after a spiritual beginning to his experience. Calvin remarked:

After a few days of not being able to do much more than hobble around, I was in [the village of] O Cebreiro and remembered something that I had seen in Santo Domingo de Silos. There, in the wonderful cloister, is a stone carving of the Savior, dressed in pilgrim clothing, walking with His disciples on the road to Emmaus. I realized that just as Christ had walked with His disciples then, He walked with me now. But this was not all; He also sat with me at the empty bus stops on the days I couldn’t walk, and He comforted me when I was in the hospital alone. He never left my side.

Walking on the road to Emmaus, the Savior, dressed in pilgrim clothing, invites all to walk with Him. Photo by John Rosenberg.

I pondered the Savior’s symbol as the Bread of Life. Just as I had eaten bread every day on the Camino, He had accompanied me on my journey. I realized that I began to see His hand in every aspect of my journey, personalized just for me. My companions, other pilgrims, the shopkeepers, they all gave me daily bread. Not just the actual bread that I ate at every meal, but . . . a different kind of bread that fed my soul. They ministered to me and blessed me in ways that only God could have directed.

After rest and a beautiful blessing, I was able to walk again. It was still incredibly painful, but I could feel the Savior by my side. I walked the last 150 km to Santiago, with a new determination to share my daily bread with those around me—not because of some spiritual balance I felt indebted to pay but because of love for my Savior. In the same way that I needed those who fed me, I could feed others on their Camino.

I came to learn that by heeding the Savior’s invitation to walk with Him, He will make more of me than I ever hoped to be. Walking with Him means inviting Him to join me and earnestly striving to live as He would by loving and giving freely. He will give me daily bread in the form of people on my path—bread that will sustain me and bread to sustain others. We are all pilgrims—in need of His daily bread.

God also asks us to be His helpers. Elder Marion D. Hanks taught, “Christ will lift us up and help us to become as he is as we do as he did; as we love our Father and give him our lives; as we love each other and all men, and learn and live and teach his word; [and] believe in the worth of souls.”[12] To walk with Christ means we accept His help, but it also means we share His help with others. We can become powerful instruments in His hands when those around us experience self-doubt. We can share patience. We can share Christ’s love and charity. We can remind others that their honest efforts are enough. We can help others recognize their strengths and affirm that they are children of God with potential to become like Him.

“What does it mean to walk with the Lord?” asked President Henry B. Eyring. “It means to do what He does, to serve the way He serves. He sacrificed His own comforts to bless those in need, so that’s what we try to do. . . . If you walk with the Savior long enough, you will learn to see everyone as a child of God with limitless potential, regardless of what his or her past may have been.”[13] We are worthy to be instruments in God’s hands to represent Him. What an honor He has bestowed upon us! He believes we are capable of loving for Him. Can we let Him know that He can count on us to walk the rocky path with others on His behalf? The Savior reminds us, “Ye call me Master and Lord: and ye say well; for so I am. If I then, your Lord and Master, have washed your feet; ye also ought to wash one another’s feet. For I have given you an example, that ye should do as I have done to you” (John 13:13–15). Are we willing to wash one another’s feet? Are we willing to share the love and encouragement of the Lord with those who are in despair, who feel inadequate, who feel they don’t measure up, who fear they are not enough, who feel overwhelmed trying to do it all, who doubt who they are and who they may become?

“As ye have therefore received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk ye in him: rooted and built up in him” (Colossians 2:6–7). Can we love for Him? Can we be an ambassador for Christ in helping others combat self-doubt?

Our Savior from Self-Doubt

Walking the Camino de Santiago in Spain was a powerful experience. We gathered to celebrate the light and life of Jesus Christ—to go “farther and higher” with His help.[14] Our group of students met other pilgrims from Spain, England, Italy, France, Germany, Korea, Israel, Chile, and Peru, to name a few places. People gathered from all over the world to honor Christ, reminding us that we all belong to one another, that we are brothers and sisters in God’s eternal family. God gathers His family. The Lord wants us to “be gathered in one, that [we] may be [His] people and [He] will be [our] God” (Doctrine and Covenants 42:9).

Ascending pebblestone pathway on the Camino de Santiago. Photo by John Rosenberg.

All the Camino paths end in Santiago de Compostela, Spain, a city named after the Apostle James. When our students arrived in Santiago, they hugged, cheered, and cried as they gathered to celebrate having completed something truly difficult. What made the journey meaningful to them was the relationships they built as they walked. They realized how much others had helped them along the way, how they had helped others, and how God had helped them. They knew they could not have completed the journey alone.

As we accept Christ’s invitation to walk with Him, feelings of self-doubt will transform into feelings of confidence in the Lord. We will overcome feelings of doubt about who we are and what we can become through the love and strength of the Savior. We will think less about ourselves and our weaknesses and more about the will of God and how we can be instruments in His hands to do His work. Focusing on the Savior’s help will bring joy and happiness to our journey.

I bear witness that the Savior walks with us. He tells us, “For I the Lord thy God will hold thy right hand, saying unto thee, Fear not; I will help thee” (Isaiah 41:13; italics added). He offers to help us when we are impatient with ourselves, and He reminds us of His patience with us. He walks with us when we are critical of and negative about ourselves, reminding us that we are loved and encouraging us to see ourselves through His loving eyes. He walks with us when we fear we are not enough, and He motivates us to try—to offer what we can. He empowers us by making our weak things strong. He grants us special gifts and talents, and He encourages us to recognize and enhance those gifts and talents. He guides us with the Spirit when we feel overwhelmed and helps us prioritize and focus our efforts on doing what is most needful. He reminds us that we are worthy of His help when we make mistakes and when we sin, and He motivates us to change.

When we focus on the Savior, we see evidence of His footsteps beside us, and we recognize the warmth of His patience, charity, power, gifts, voice, and forgiveness. We feel His peace as He calls out, “I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life” (John 8:12). We honor Christ as we follow in His footsteps and do as He would do and love as He would love. I know our Savior lives and loves us. I know we will go farther and higher with His help.

I witness of the joy we can find on our personal journey as we stay focused on Christ. Our confidence in who we are and what we may become with Him will wax strong. I know that Jesus Christ is our Savior from self-doubt.

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Invitation: Focus on the Savior’s invitation to become “at-one” with Him and one another. Focus on His gift of unity for you personally and for your family.

Think-in-ink journal challenge: Write down ways you have felt Christ’s help in your life. Write one thing you can do today to accept His help more in your life.

Notes

[1] See Bible Dictionary, “Hezekiah’s Tunnel.”

[2] “Lead, Kindly Light,” Hymns, no. 97.

[3] Robert D. Hales, “We Can’t Do It Alone,” Ensign, November 1975, 90.

[4] Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are (Center City, MN: Hazelden, 2010), 20, 74.

[5] Oxford Dictionary of English, 3rd ed. (2010), s.v. “disable,” https://oxfordreference.com/view/10.1093/acref/9780199571123.001.0001/m_en_gb0228820.

[6] Hales, “We Can’t Do It Alone,” 90–91, 93.

[7] Jacopo Robusti Tintoretto, The Washing of the Feet, 1548–49, oil on canvas, 90 × 210″ (228 × 533 cm), Museo del Prado, Madrid, Spain, https://museodelprado.es/en/the-collection/art-work/the-washing-of-the-feet/77d1fd63-1918-40b7-a79e-6d427e19bed8.

[8] Bruce C. Hafen, “Covenant Marriage,” Ensign, November 1996, 26.

[9] Michelle D. Craig, “Divine Discontent,” Ensign, November 2018, 54.

[10] Sheri L. Dew, “Our Only Chance,” Ensign, May 1999, 66–67.

[11] Jeffrey R. Holland, “For Times of Trouble” (Brigham Young University devotional, March 13, 1980), 10, speeches.byu.edu.

[12] Marion D. Hanks, The Gift of Self (Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1974), 262.

[13] Henry B. Eyring, “Walk with Me,” Ensign, May 2017, 84–85.

[14] “Dum pater familias” (hymn), lines 19–20, in Codex Calixtinus, la.wikisource.org/wiki/codex_calixtinus/dum_pater_familias.